TRUST – a social phenomenon that can be linked to several aspects of life, personal, work, school, relationships and anything you can name. What is the hysteria that everything in our life, failure or success, is measured by the trust given and earned by people around us?
The literal definition of Trust is the “firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something” and is measured through time. But is it a belief, an emotion, a consequence or an impact of life?. I mean it doesn’t have to be one or the other, it can be everything or nothing, just depends on your view of what trust is. What’s important to know is “trust” is vital to all human connections. It defines our relationships, from accidental encounters, friendship’s to intimate relationships. It is same as a belief that we don’t want to be knocked by a car driver just because we are using the same road or doctors will kill you in an open surgery just because they get tired and want to go home. It’s the little things and belief we have that, people are built up on discipline and modesty, it’s about respecting the chances you get and leaving your it to “chance” and believing things will eventually work out.
“Friendship- my definition- is built on two things. Respect and trust. Both elements have to be there. And it has to be mutual. You can have respect for someone, but if you don’t have trust, the friendship will crumble.”
Trust is built up on our hopes, dreams, aspirations, inspirations, fears and most importantly “uncertainty”. In normal circumstances we don’t just blindly trust people on our first encounter, it takes time maybe few minutes, days or years for us to believe if the person is trustworthy. The uncertainty is we don’t know how long it will last or what will drive a wedge between what we believed we wanted and what actually is. For some people, it’s very easy to trust, might happen consciously in seconds or minutes after meeting with someone. A person who has gone through abuse, harassment or unfair justice might consider it’s impossible to accept people around them, the paranoia that someone will hurt or abuse them will be unavoidable. They detach themselves from human encounters and have one or limited people in their life that they can depend on. Also, as we all bounded with rationality and we believe what we perceive, we know that our perceptions are always biased. We create our own image of the person we meet and we have this whole situation that, this is how it will work and expectations from other people. It is broken when the bubble bursts and we have a sense of reality on expectations and perceptions. However, this is not the case of every instance, but this isn’t unfamiliar either.
“You see, you closed your eyes. That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too–even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”
Also, it is important for our complacency, the comfort of having someone in our life we can completely trust, expect to be there for us when in need, help and protect us when we are going through the ups and downs. But the problem arises when it is swapped with the “need of having someone” by our side. It’s the honesty, benevolence and kindness of the other person we need, that we often confuse “trust” with “companionship”. For me, trust is having faith in someone. The ability, integrity, respect and benevolence of the relationship I share with the person determines the level of trust.